How Understanding Energetics Helps Shift to an Abundance Mindset

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Introduction

If you grew up in survival mode—dodging emotional landmines, rationing attention, hustling for scraps of love—then the idea of abundance can feel like a lie. Even when you try to think positively or speak affirmations, it might feel hollow. That’s because mindset alone isn’t enough when your body and energy are still wired for scarcity.

To truly shift from scarcity to abundance, you have to go deeper—into the realm of energetics. This doesn’t mean you need to become spiritual or mystical. It just means recognizing that your energy—your posture, breath, nervous system, tone, presence—is sending signals every second of the day. And until you shift those signals, your world will keep reflecting scarcity back to you.

Understanding energetics is a core pillar of reparenting. It’s how we rewire not just how we think—but how we feel, move, and receive.

What Are Energetics, Really?

Energetics refers to the subtle, often subconscious, signals that your body and nervous system emit. It’s your felt presence. The tone of your voice. The openness (or tightness) in your chest. The grounding in your feet. It’s how your body speaks before your mouth does.

Energetics isn’t woo-woo. It’s biological. If your nervous system is stuck in a fight, flight, freeze, or fawn state, your body literally projects contraction, vigilance, fear, or appeasement. If you’ve lived in trauma long enough, this becomes your default energy signature—even when you're safe.

The problem is: energy attracts energy.If you’re stuck in scarcity energetics, you’ll keep attracting experiences, people, and dynamics that match that state.

Scarcity Energy vs. Abundance Energy

Let’s look at the difference:

Scarcity Energy	Abundance Energy
Shallow breathing	Deep, regulated breath
Slumped or closed posture	Open, grounded body language
Over-apologizing, over-explaining	Clear, calm boundaries
Speaking quickly or nervously	Speaking slowly, from your belly
Hustling to prove your worth	Trusting that your presence is enough
Distrust of rest or ease	Letting things come to you

You can’t just think your way into abundance. You have to train your system to feel safe, grounded, and open to receiving.

Why This Matters in Reparenting

If your inner child was constantly told “don’t ask for too much,” or “you’re a burden,” or if love was conditional on performance, then your body learned:

“If I’m not doing, I’m not deserving.”

That’s the core of scarcity.Energetics lets you reparent your body out of that state—so your inner child learns, I can be soft. I can rest. I can receive.

This isn’t just about money or success. This is about your identity. About trusting that you don’t have to beg for crumbs. You are worthy of the whole damn table.

How to Shift Your Energetics Toward Abundance

1. Regulate Your Nervous System

Abundance begins with safety. If your body doesn't feel safe, no amount of positive thinking will stick.

• Try vagus nerve exercises (humming, gargling, cold water splashes)

• Practice box breathing (inhale 4, hold 4, exhale 4, hold 4)

• Use somatic grounding: press your feet into the floor, stretch slowly

2. Body Language Rewiring

Walk through your day like someone who already belongs. Shoulders back. Eyes open. Take up space. Let your body signal: I trust there’s enough.

3. Energetic Boundaries

Scarcity makes you say yes to everything—even what drains you—because you fear the alternative is having nothing.

Abundance begins with saying no and trusting that aligned opportunities will come. Start with small no's and build from there.

4. Sensory Pleasure and Slowness

Let yourself experience non-productive joy:

• Sip tea slowly

• Feel warmth on your skin

• Listen to music and move gently

These practices say: “I don’t have to earn peace. I allow it.”

5. Practice Receiving

If someone compliments you, don’t deflect. Say thank you and breathe it in.If someone offers help, accept it.These are energetic shifts in allowing flow—not just effort—to support you.

Affirmations to Anchor Abundant Energy

• I am safe to receive.

• My presence is enough.

• I am open to love, rest, and support.

• I trust in the flow of life.

• I no longer perform for crumbs—I sit at the full table.

• My body is learning that abundance is safe.

Conclusion

The journey from scarcity to abundance isn’t just mindset—it’s energetic reparenting. It’s learning how to soften, receive, and root into the truth that you are enough. You always were. You were just taught to brace, to shrink, to survive.

But surviving isn’t your only option anymore.

You get to exhale.You get to open your hands.You get to take your seat at the table of life—not as a beggar, but as a being who finally remembers their worth.

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